Jan 13 2013
“All that’s necessary for the forces of evil to win in the world, is for enough good men to do nothing” – Edmund Burke
I was speaking with a dear friend a number of months ago, where she recounted for me a series of demeaning and disappointing recent events she was subjected to, at her husband’s company’s golf outing. Apparently, one of the male participants thought it was humorous and appropriate when it was his time to tee-off, to put down a mock pair of women’s legs, spread, with the tee placed squarely in its place (this won’t take much imagination!). When our friend approached her husband and expressed her disgust, she was told, “Please don’t say anything, I have to work with these people.” If he thought about his priorities and self-serving stance, he might have realized that what he in effect was saying was, “my reputation at work, how I’m viewed by these people I share 40 hours a week with, is more important than how you view me and the health and future of our relationship. Get over it!”
What a lose/lose position to have taken. On the one hand, his fellow employees of both genders, now know publicly how shallow and cowardly he can be when it comes to matters of “defending” his wife’s dignity specifically, and that of #women everywhere generally, including his daughters. On the other hand, insofar as the future of their relationship – he had made another huge withdrawal from his wife’s emotional bank account, apparently amongst several others.
It’s this indifference, this laissez-faire attitude, mostly on the part of men, that when taken to excess, led to the torture and death of between three and five million women during a period known as “the HOLY Inquisition.” It was its own Holocaust! Hidden behind the notion that it was based and fostered on a defense of church dogma, was an insidious, yet more powerful attempt to diminish the role of women, to silence them, to bring them in line and under the control of the male gender. This was a period when “the #egos of men,” went unabated and were insatiable in their appetite for power – relegating women solely, to the roles of having children and those of a domestic. Beyond that, their lives had no value. It was “#a war on women” (sound familiar?), a period when the world became severely unbalanced, because of the lopsided male-driven, male-dominated civilization that was being promulgated. The essential differing qualities and characteristics of “the female,” a foundational component of #DIVINE DESIGN, were being exterminated. It was misogyny on steroids! There was no separation whatsoever, between #church and state. The church was all-knowing (and through its field operatives, all-seeing).
Could this ever happen again? IT IS – RIGHT NOW!!!
After a long period of relative dormancy, “the egos of men” have awoken, and are using what it found to work so successfully in years gone by – religion. Just look anywhere in our world where women are being denied equality. You’ll find at the heart of that culture, an existing or emerging extremist ideology – all being led by, you got it – men. Whether it’s coining #rape as just another form of conception, or legitimizing it as opposed to its relative – the illegitimate cousin, whether a women’s right to choose should be revoked or allowed in certain cases or not, to considerations for the imprisonment of those who violate “#G-D’s will (read man’s will). All are being headed by men – men who can’t possibly understand the multitude of issues associated with womanhood, and more so, pregnancy. I’m not staking a personal position here. Rather, I’m stating unequivocally, that G-D gave us #freedom of choice – in everything, and that freedom is not to be revoked by any government - or any man! Which leads me to ask a question:
When it comes to #women’s healthcare and reproductive decisions – why do men get a vote?
While the foundation of this post focuses on the dignity and rights of women everywhere, it’s perhaps even more, a “call” to men of all cultures and faiths. A challenge to stand for the equality of our sisters in the face of mounting opposition, headed by an adversary from time immemorial, “the egos of men.” The essential balance of our world and the civilization our children and grand-children inherit, all depends on this generation – on us! So we all have a #choice. We can turn a “blind-eye” to the injustices, the inequities we are aware of regarding women (and there are several beyond those mentioned here) and be accessories to the fact, co-conspirators with “the #darkness,” or we can stand with our “other-halves,” our equals in creation, and be the abundant beneficiaries of ” #la femme unique.”
As for me, I’ve proudly chosen to identify and take a stand with the latter. Whether straight, LGB or T, I’m EVERY#Woman!
Where do you stand on this issue? What have been your own experiences? Do you believe that men have a role to play in fostering a culture of gender equality?
This post was originally published August 26, 2012